Ria came to this site looking for answers...
The following is a series of unedited emails posted here with her permission.
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Tell Me More About You
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from: New_Visitor
to: "Mr. A"
subject: Tell Me More About You
1. Gender: Female
2. Age: 18-21
3. What's your single most important question about study skills:
How can I stop getting distracted?
4. If you found this site through search, what keyword(s) did you use: Youtube - How to Study
5. What happened today to make you search using this keyword:
I'm overloaded with Studies and cannot seem to stay in tuned with what I am reading
6. How difficult was it for you to find a good answer with the above while searching today: Not at all difficult
7. What might you search on next: Problems focusing
8. How can I completely amaze you so that you tell everyone about this site:
Idk, lol. Help with my ADHD like syndrome
Name and Email: Ria [email removed for privacy]
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from: "Mr. A"
to: "Ria"
subject: Re: Tell Me More About You
Hi Ria,
Help me understand what's going on with you better...
I got you're overloaded.
How many different subjects? What type?
Plus I got you can't stay focused while you're reading.
Mind go blank? Head heavy? Frustrated feeling? Wandering?
-Mr. A
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from: "Ria"
to: "Mr. A"
subject: Re: Tell Me More About You
How many different subjects am I overloaded in?
Well I'm not sure because currently I feel overloaded with anything having to do with reading. It'll take a while but I'm doing alright with Philosophy. Even though every other day we have a quiz over an entire chapters' worth of reading.
I have a test tomorrow/today at 8 in the morning for Government, and I swear I am going to bomb the heck out of it.Since yesterday I have been trying to read up on my chapters and making an outline on everything. only 9 pages into it. I have like 80 more before I'm done. I just can't stay focused. It's come to the point that I even dropped my Spanish III because I can't focus enough in my mandatory courses.
This is the first time I don't have a full schedule but yet I've never been so distracted. I don't know what the source of my distraction is. I just know that even right now I should be focusing on studying, but I almost don't have the motivation to any more. And I love my teacher to death. I honestly do. I don't want to do bad in his class. The only grades we have in there IS the test, and he told us that we don't want to take the final because no one ever passes it.
I strongly despise Government. I've never been a fan. (Maybe it's because I hate politics) Overall I'm a very strong reader, Mr. A. I'm the absolute biggest reader I know. I can recall going through an entire book every night before bed. I have read all the books off my book shelf. I enjoy looking up stories on-line just to read. I'm a tutor in languages including Spanish, English, and ESL (and a few other subjects). I don't have a problem with reading in general. Just lately I've been more distracted and in Governemnt I have to read a paragraph multiple times before it makes sense., I have been getting distracted in tutoring my tutuees, I zone off into "lala land" for the longest time, etc. And I guess you can say that I'm a little frustrustrated with some things. I'm not sure.
I feel like whatever it is that is going on is not going to be fixed. I am not a negative person. It's just, so much has happened since the middle of summer and now. I feel like screaming on the top of my lungs. I feel utterly helpless and there's nothing that I can do about it. I want to dig a hole in an alternate universe and hide out for the next decade.
I'm not looking for a miracle. Maybe I'm just looking for a way to forget things that bother me. I honestly don't know. There's just too much.
I'm going to fail my test. THAT is a fact. I just can't get passed these boring pages. Things that I have never personally studied are too difficult to maintain my attention. The first three chapters of the book weren't this difficult. And it's not necessarily that the material is boring. Like I said, I don't know what is up with me.
Mr. A, I'm sorry. But honestly, I cannot tell you what's making me frustrated. I just know that there's this frustration inside of me that I don't know how to cope with.
I'm sorry for taking up so much of your time
~Ria
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Video 5 is great
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from: "Ria"
to: "Mr. A"
subject: Video 5 is great
I should have watched this video sooner. I had been so overwhelmed with things that I hadn't watched the passed three videos of yours till just now (I've been having bad internet problems as well)
Idk what it is about that video, but suddenly I feel more determined to finish the task at hand; my needing to study. Btw,I take amazing notes. Sometimes when one gets caught up in life they forget to take things one at a time. I have been so focused on getting down three chapters worth of reading that I completely forgot where my goals lied.
One at a time. I never would have thought that such a lesson would tranquilize me at a level unthinkable. I don't have this luggish weight of dread on me. Even though it's 2:15 a.m. right now, I don't feel that I should even worry.
I'll just take it one at a time..... starting with a shower because I reek of Coffee.
Thank you Mr. A..... wish me luck on my test. lol. I have it in less than six hours.
~Ria <3
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Hey it's Ria
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from: "Ria"
to: "Mr. A"
subject: Hey it's Ria
omg omg omg!! Mr. A, Mr. A, Mr. A...
I got a 93 on my Government test. A 93 ^-^ I'm totally stoked
And I thank you so much for it.
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you
~Ria <3
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from: "Mr. A"
to: "Ria"
subject: Re: Hey it's Ria
Wow Ria! Right on!
You're welcome.
I just finished reading your other emails and
felt very happy to read this one.
I'd love to use your emails on the site (address
erased of course) because your story is a great
example.
Let me know if you're ok with me keeping your
name (Ria) or if you'd prefer me to change it.
Congratulations on a job well done!
-Mr. A
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from: "Ria"
to: "Mr. A"
subject: Re: Hey it's Ria
No go ahead, feel free and use my name ^-^
And thank you so much. You're amazing.
I'm actually able to focus more and have been able to shake off this stress
that I didn't even realize I've been carrying on my shoulders.
You have no idea how much you've helped me. You honestly don't...
Have a Nice Day!
~Ria <3
